Depression is a condition that is notorious for destroying people’s social and romantic relationships. When you are depressed, you often lose interest in the things that you love.
This post intends to explore this topic and explain what you should be doing if you find that your depression is negatively impacting your relationship, no matter if it’s a romantic one or a social one. Be sure to read this post in its entirety so that you can make informed decisions as it relates to your mental health and work towards improving it.
Helping Your Loved Ones
You may be here reading this article to help a loved one, not yourself. If this is the case, you’ve got your work cut out for you.
Helping a friend, partner, or family member improve their mental health can be extremely difficult. If you want to help a girlfriend with depression (or anybody close to you), the best thing that you can do is get in touch with a professional. A professional will be able to advise your loved one and help them to work through their issues. Individuals with depression tend more often than not to have triggers. Triggers are things that bring up negative, unwanted emotions.
Before your loved one can begin working through their issues, they’ll need to identify their triggers. An expert can help with this, bringing triggers to your loved one’s attention (or your attention) and helping them or you identify strategies for overcoming them.
If you are interested in hiring a mental health professional to work with your loved one, you need to take your time and find one with good reviews and a solid reputation.
You can tell a professional’s reputation from their reviews. If a psychiatrist or mental health professional that you are interested in working with does not have very good reviews, then you should avoid them. It is important to note that some mental health professionals do not have any reviews at all and that is not necessarily a bad thing.
A total absence of reviews can sometimes just suggest that they have never done anything to annoy their customers and clients. It is also important to note that if a psychiatrist does not have any reviews on their website, you can always reach out to them privately, asking for testimonials from former clients.
Having An Open Conversation
If you are the one who is depressed and you find your mental illness is ruining your relationship, immediate action should be taken.
Those suffering from depression tend to drift into states of ignorance and carelessness, shutting out the outside world. If you shut your relationship’s problems out, there is no guarantee your partner is going to stay with you. For some people, depression is enough for them to want to get out of a relationship and find another person to spend time with. The best way to ensure this does not happen is to be open with your partner.
Begin talking to your partner about how you feel. If you are depressed, you don’t necessarily have to tell them why you are depressed, but you should tell them that you are depressed.
Telling them that you are depressed will make them feel that you trust them, and it will also do a lot for your relationship in that it will give your partner a glimpse into how you’re feeling. If your behavior has changed or you’re not being as affectionate as usual, if they know you are depressed, they are less likely to think that you have lost interest in them and do not want to continue the relationship.
Couples therapy is something else that you might want to consider. It’s an extremely effective way of working through your problems, especially if you think that your partner is contributing to them. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking they alone need to deal with their depression.
Going to a therapist with your partner will not only allow you to deal with your problems, but it’ll also help them to work through any unresolved issues that they have with you, which is always possible.
If you do want to go to therapy with your partner, you need to make sure that you explain your reasons for wanting to, to them. If you do not explain why, they might not be receptive to the idea. Remember that your partner’s feelings are as important as yours.
If they do not want to, do not force them to. Trying to force them to go to therapy is a surefire way to ruin your bond and make them feel as though to you, only you matter, and they don’t mean anything.
Depression is more common than ever before. During the COVID pandemic’s early days, levels of depression rose higher than they ever have been in the nation’s history. This was mostly due to the lockdowns, mainly. People were forced indoors and unable to spend time with their loved ones. Additionally, many people were forced out of work.
When the pandemic ended, people started feeling better about themselves and levels of depression dropped. This was because people were able to get outdoors and surround themselves with their friends and their loved ones. People were also able to find work more easily.
The above shows that lifestyle changes enable people to overcome their depression. If your circumstances are unfavorable and you find yourself living in a state of constant misery, consider looking into ways you can change your life positively.
For some people, positive changes involve exercise or eating a healthier diet and for others, they involve removing certain toxic people from their lives. When you are making lifestyle changes, make sure that you take them slowly. If you try to rush into changes, you’ll likely make yourself feel worse and you will put yourself into an uncomfortable position. Lifestyle changes should be staggered and made slowly.
If you are interested in improving your relationships, now’s the time to work on your depression. You can do that by taking the guidance given here and incorporating it into your life. Make sure that you do so slowly and at a pace that you find comfortable.