Alpha males are a really interesting concept. Both women and men seem to think about this in some capacity or another.
How you can know if a guy is an alpha male? So by alpha male what we’re really talking about is a guy who’s not leading the pack necessarily but he’s just a guy who knows what his life is about and he’s going after it.
So we’re going to talk about 5 Signs that you have found one of these guys.
He isn’t trying really hard to impress other people or to dominate them
So oftentimes a lot of people think that an alpha male is like this sort of domineering sort of rule kind of guy who has ultra-high testosterone like the one with caveman club on his shoulders and is going to start swinging it around until everyone bows to his every whim.
That’s not really what an alpha male is. That’s actually somebody who is posturing somebody. Who’s actually really terrified of maybe you not agreeing with them or something along those lines.
So they posture. They try to make themselves seem stronger than they really are because they’re really so concerned about your perception of them and whether you see them as a strong person or good enough or whether they’re looking good or not looking bad or something like that.
It’s kind of like the sort of the meek nice guy kind of person but sort of the opposite side of things. That is not really a true alpha male. That’s just a try-hard kind of guy.
So if a guy spends a lot of time trying to impress you, trying to win your approval, or even in subtle ways trying to gain approval by making himself seem strong or right or like a know it all, then that guy is probably not an alpha male.
Real alpha guys are those who know what their lives are about, they’re on their path and they’re just going after what’s important to them. They don’t give a shit about what you think about them. They really don’t give a shit.
Because they’re going after what they want and that is the most important thing in their life. Your opinion of them is not the most important thing in their life. If you don’t like them then “hey sorry” but if you do then that’s cool. You can come along for the ride but they’re not trying to micromanage your perception of them because they know what their life is about.
They know what’s important to them and they’re going after it. That is the most important thing to them, not whether or not they look cool good or whether you swoon when they walk-by or anything like that. Maybe that’s the icing on the cake but that’s not what it is that they’re living for.
He really knows what his life is about.
He knows what’s important to him. Okay so maybe you’ve interacted with him you’ve talked with him. Does it seem like he has some sort of burning passion in his life, something that he’s like working towards? Right?
You know I think a lot of people have something that they want to do in their life but maybe they just aren’t taking action on it, aren’t executing on that for any number of reasons. And you know though I’m not talking about the dreamers.
Wouldn’t it be nice if maybe someday I kind of started a company and maybe we could do these things? I’m not talking about those guys I’m talking about the guys that want it so bad they’re making it happen right now.
You know maybe it’s not all there yet but they’re taking action. They’re not just sitting on the couch commenting about how maybe someday this will happen or wouldn’t it be nice if for something like that. They’re actually out there trying to make it happen.
He is taking the actions, they’re making the moves to kind of put these things together in some way and sure they might make mistakes, sure they may not always be there, Sure they might have setbacks and time but they’re actually out there trying to make it happen.
That’s definitely a sign of an alpha male, not a dreamer, and not somebody who’s just checked out zoned out going to work watching TV and all that stuff. This is somebody who’s actually on his mission.
There’s nothing wrong with watching TV, there’s nothing wrong with just having a job or something like that. But you know if you’re just kind of going through dead not alive then that’s probably not a sign that you’re an alpha male. So that’s definitely something else to be on the lookout for.
He has very high standards for himself and for others.
OK, so an alpha male knows what he wants. He really does. So he’s not just going to be surrounding himself with just a bunch of people. They’re just going to bullshit him and tell him what he wants to hear.
He wants to surround himself with people who are also committed to excellence, who are also committed to pursuing, what it is they want out of life and going after it full throttle. He’s probably going to want that out of you as well too.
Now just because an alpha male wants to surround himself and demands high standards of himself and others that doesn’t mean that he’s going to be a perfectionist.
There’s a difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards. Being a perfectionist is often a symptom of emotionally unavailable men or women because it gives them the out for not having to commit to you.
Like oh well you weren’t perfect. So I can’t commit to you. But that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the kind of guy who just really cares so much about the people in his life that he really wants to.
He helps them rise to the occasion to create the best of what it is that they can in their lives and in his life and have this whole symbiotic thing where you both are just sort of like mutually lifting each other up. That’s the kind of thing I’m talking about when it comes to alpha males.
An alpha male takes his words very seriously.
He’s not just going to talk about something and then flake out at the last minute or anything like that or you know do a bunch of talk about something and never follow through on it. An alpha male takes his commitments seriously and he follows through on them seriously.
The key foundation of trust is that you basically follow through on what it is that you say you’re going to do if you say you’re going to do something you do it. If you say you’re going to be somewhere you go there if you say you’re going to do.
If you say you’re going to go out with somebody you go out with that person. Sure circumstances and life might pop up something like that but you’re going to make the best effort that you possibly can to follow through on your word because that is definitely something that alpha males tend to have in common.
He’s not afraid to take the lead.
Alpha males might often be the one’s sort of in the lead of a group of people or when it comes to a dating situation. They might sort of be in the lead when it comes to the date and the direction in which things go or something like that.
It’s not necessarily they are always in the lead because that just goes back to trying to look good, trying to make sure that everybody sees them as like the man but really an alpha male doesn’t care about being the man because an alpha male knows what his life is about.
So you know he doesn’t have a problem taking the lead in situations or in organizations or on dates or in social groups or anything like that but he doesn’t need to.
He also is totally ok to just kick back and let other people decide on things or whatever if it comes to that. But you know people can’t decide or if they need somebody to take the lead he has no problem just stepping up and saying “hey guys why don’t we go to this place over”.
So these are the signs that a male is an alpha.