You finally got a date with that one special girl.
You took her out, it went well, now you guys are back at your house, she’s in your bedroom, now she’s in your bed, now her clothes are off, holy shit, it’s about to go down, yes, you’re in here, you’re doing it, you’re doing it, and you’re done.
Wait, is that it?
Is sex only supposed to last only 3 minutes?
Is that what sex is?
Hell no it isn’t!
Sex is awesome, and if you’re only lasting a few minutes, you’re not getting the full experience, and it’s not gonna be anywhere near as great as it could be – for you, OR for HER.
While longer sex doesn’t necessarily mean better sex, studies show that desirable sex lasts somewhere between 7-13 minutes for intercourse and about 15 minutes for foreplay.
If you get a girl in bed and you only last 3 to 4 minutes do not expect her to be coming back for more.
But don’t fear.
I’ll be teaching you TEN, very specific ways, to last longer in bed.
#1. Go slower and more sensual.
Don’t jackhammer. That’s how most guys have sex. The girl lies down, the guy lies on top of her, and then he just pounds her over and over, faster and faster, until he’s done. That’s not good – for you, OR for her – it sucks. And not “sucks” in the way you want to be sucked. If you’re pounding girls and finishing really fast, try for a slower vibe.
You can make it more sensual, more personal, more affectionate.
#2. Dim the lights.
I like having the lights on, nice and bright, so I can see what’s happening. If you like visual stimulation and find it
gets you more into it, then try going without it. Dim the lights or turn them off entirely.
Doing this can allow you to last longer because you have less stimulation.
#3. Practice Kegels.
Believe it or not, Kegels aren’t just for post-partum women. Kegels are exercises that help you to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can in turn improve how long you last in bed.
To get started, locate your Kegel muscles. You can do this by stopping urination midstream, or tightening the muscles that keep you from letting out a fart. Once you’ve figured out how to activate your Kegel muscles, you can try out the exercises, preferably while lying down to start. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for 3 seconds, and then release. For best results, try and focus on only tightening the pelvic floor muscles and not those in your abdomen, thighs, or butt, and remember to breathe freely throughout the exercise. Repeat 10 sets of these 3 times a day, either while standing, sitting, or walking.
#4. Switch positions.
If you’re close to finishing and you’re not ready to finish yet, switch into a position that won’t get you off – like kissing, cuddling, eating her out, fingering her, sucking on her feet, flipping her around, and kissing her body, or taking her to another location like the shower or the bath.
This gives you some time to cool down a little, and then after a while, you can resume.
#5. Masturbate on Your Own Time.
Some masturbation techniques can help you gain better control over your premature ejaculation, and train you to last longer.
Cock rings are great for training, as they can be used solo as well as with a partner. Cock rings go around the base of the penis and apply pressure, restricting the blood flow. This helps to delay orgasm and even has the added benefit of giving you a more intense orgasm.
Another great way to practice on your own time is by acquiring a pocket pussy. By reenacting sex with a pleasure device that is very similar to the real thing, you can physically and psychologically train yourself to last longer. If you’re looking for a pocket pussy, you can find a list of the best pocket pussies on this page.
With a pocket pussy, you can practice edging, making love with a cock ring on, or even use it to masturbate before having sex with your partner. Since ejaculating too quickly may be due to the fact that you haven’t ejaculated recently, your prostate is fully engorged and any touch may set you off. A great way to combat this is by masturbating right before sex since you’re more likely to last longer during round two.
Edging involves bringing yourself to the very edge of orgasm, stopping right before you do, and then repeating this pattern. There are two ways to do this: the “stop and start” method, and the “squeeze” method. Edging is great because it not only allows you to delay your orgasm, but it also makes your orgasms a lot more intense.
To practice the “stop and start” method, you would be having sex with your partner, and right as you’re about to orgasm, you would stop for 30 seconds, giving yourself time to cool down. You would then resume the sex, continuing to stop right as you’re on the verge of orgasm, and repeating this pattern until you’re ready to ejaculate.
For the “squeeze” method, you would begin very similarly to the other edging method, but during the pause, you or your partner would squeeze the end of your penis where shaft and head meet for a few seconds until sexual stimulation is stopped. You would continue to repeat this pattern until you’re ready to ejaculate.
#7. Spend More Time on Foreplay.
Helping your partner reach their orgasm first is a great way to last longer. Take your time with foreplay – use a toy, your hands, your mouth, or all three, and focus on clitoral or prostate stimulation until they reach their blissful ending.
Knowing that your partner has already reached orgasm will take some pressure off your shoulders, and the relaxation can also help you last longer. Another trick to foreplay, however, is to not go directly from your partner giving you a blow job into penetrative sex. Instead, try and break the foreplay up – go from kissing to pleasuring them manually, to receiving a blow job, to then performing cunnilingus, followed by penetrative sex. By breaking up your stimulation, you’re giving yourself more time to cool down, and in turn, last longer.
#8. Wear a condom.
If you haven’t had sex with a condom and without one, you may not know this, but sex without a condom feels WAY better. If you’re used to doing it with a condom, and then you try once without it, you’ll be done faster. Likewise, if you’ve had sex 50 times without a condom and then you put one on, you’ll probably take forever to finish.
And if you’re a guy who has trouble lasting long enough, this could be a good thing for you. Depending on how much longer you want to last, you can get thicker and thicker condoms, and the thicker it is the more it’ll decrease
the sense of touch in your dick, and you’ll be able to last longer.
KEEP IN MIND: you should ALWAYS wear a condom when having sex because there is nothing godly about chlamydia.
#9. Use this thing called Delay Spray.
Guys typically orgasm after 6 minutes.
Girls – 19 minutes.
So if you actually care about your girl, you don’t want to be done in 6 minutes and then go play Call of Duty while she just lays there thinking “wow, this guy fucking sucks.
And even if you don’t care about the girl, you still want her to have a good experience, because it means she’ll come back for more. With Delay Spray, you don’t have to hold back or slow down. You can go all out for as long as you want. This lets you give it to her as long as she needs and wants so that she can reach orgasm. Give her that, and she’ll want sex all the time.
Did you ever notice that the longer you have sex, the bigger the build-up and the better the orgasm?
With delay spray, you’ll be going longer and getting one of those back-wrenching, neck-breaking, teeth-grinding orgasms and an amazing huge release.
It’ll feel epic for you – and it’ll be epic for the girl.
Make sure to get some delay spray that is medically approved.
#10. Jack off more often.
If you’ve been doing NoFap for 6 months, no jacking off, no sex, no nothing, and then you are going to be done in no time. On the other hand, if you’ve been jacking off and/or having sex every day, then you’re gonna last significantly longer. Now if you’re a monk, and you’re trying to avoid sexual stimulation, I’m not saying you have to set Pornhub as your homepage and start hopping on it 3 times a day.
But going long periods without sexual activity WILL make you finish a lot faster. So it’s up to you.
#11. Jack off right before you have sex.
One easy trick is to jack off before you have sex. For example, let’s say your girl is coming over at 8 pm. You can rub one out around 7:30, it’ll give you enough time to recover so you still get hard with her, but you’ll last longer as a
result. This tip also has the added benefit of removing your “sex goggles” – you know, like when you’re really desperate for sex that you call up a girl who’s like a 3 out of 10 at best that you don’t even like, and then literally half
a nanosecond after you fuck her you’re thinking “dammit, what did I just do.
” If you jack off beforehand, you’ll be less desperate to get off, and if you’re no longer into the girl, you can cancel on her before you do something you’ll regret.
#12. Don’t look at porn or do sexually stimulating things earlier in the day.
If you do things that sexually stimulate you earlier in the day, and then you have sex later in the day, you’ll have built yourself up and put yourself in the mood so you’re ready to start and you’ll finish a lot faster. So avoid sexual things during the day if you’re planning to have sex that night.
Now at first, this might sound like it conflicts with the previous tip, but in this one what I really mean is: avoid sexually arousing things. If you’re not going to have any release between them and when you have sex, because then all of that energy will stay built up as you start having sex, and you’ll be done faster than everyone’s interest in the most recent Call of Duty game.
#13. Do it more than once.
So you just had sex. All 35 seconds of it. Well, no big deal.
You know you’re allowed to do it more than once right?
Depending on who you are, it might take you anywhere from 10 seconds to an hour or so to recover and be ready to go again. Just cuddle with the girl, kiss, and pleasure her for a while, until you’re ready to go again, and then just jump right into it.
#14. Have sex with girls who aren’t as good.
Usually, if a girl is inexperienced, she’s not gonna be that great in bed, because she won’t know what to do, she won’t know how to move optimally, she won’t know what to say, or anything else.
So if she’s not very experienced, you’ll probably last longer, because the sex just won’t be as good.