Do you want to stop being ignored? Do you ever feel like people tend to ignore you like they don’t really value the things you have to say or they don’t really care about you being there with them?
Maybe you’re ignored in a relationship, maybe you’re ignored by a friend or maybe you’re ignored by someone you’re attracted to. I’m going to explain exactly how to get noticed by others. How to make yourself stand out so you no longer get overlooked.
If you’re feeling ignored chances are the reason is people don’t value the things you have to say so if you want to work on changing that what you’re really going to need to focus on is sharing with others how you want to be treated.
Here are some ways which will help you to stop being ignored and help you get noticed by people.
Learn to talk about things
It seems pretty obvious that anyone would want to be treated with care, kindness, respect, compassion. But in most cases, people don’t know how to take those values and translate them into action.
A lot of us tend to carry forward in this world thinking only about our own experiences and not really thinking about how it’s affecting people on the outside and the problem with that is that we may do things or say things that make us feel good but may not actually help others on the other side.
And that might be why you feel unheard and overlooked. Because that person isn’t practising that awareness for how their treating others. And, the only way they could possibly learn is if you make that effort to teach them.
You have to talk to them about the things that you like and the things that you don’t like. They’re never just going to guess on their own and get it right. You need to start grooming them. Helping them see what kind of person you are and the things that make you feel valued.
For example, you might be in a situation where you’re sitting around with your friends or even your family and you want to share how you feel about something but everyone else’s voices are drowning you out.
Talk to people individually
In those cases when you might feel completely alone, like no one is listening to you like you don’t even matter. Well, the best thing for you to do is to pull one person aside and to talk to them individually, let them know that “Hey, I feel like when I try to talk in our group discussions no one really pays attention to me. What should I do?”.
Just simply making one person aware is taking a positive step forward. At least now they can do something with that information. They can talk to other people or when they’re involved in a conversation, they can make time for you to share your opinion.
Or another example might be that you have crushes on certain guys or girls at your school and no one seems to give you the time of day. No one wants to date you, no one wants to talk to you, they may think you’re weird and creepy and because of that you kind of just go into your shell and feel like no one likes you.
Well in situations like that, sometimes the best thing to do is to talk to that person directly. You need to let them know that “Hey, did I do something that weirds you out or creeps you out? These are things I want to work on so any the advice you can give me would definitely help”.
Yes, I know. That sounds like a crazy thing to say to someone but by being honest with that person, by letting them know that you want to work on these things, hopefully, then you’ll have the opportunity to share something with them that you can work on and improve.
Let people know about your feelings
The same goes for the way that you don’t want to be treated. For example, let’s say your friends are making fun of you for something like your race, your skin colour, the way that you sound, your height, any of these different types of factors.
Pull one person aside and let them know how you truly feel, let them know that it doesn’t make you feel good, how you want them to stop and how you want to work with that one person to make that happen.
Another thing people tend to do when they feel overlooked is overthinking everyone’s actions. They may see someone gossiping or whispering and think that that person is just talking smack about them when in reality that might not be the case.
What you’re really going to need to work on is changing your perspective. Instead of trying to fill in the gaps with what you think other people are thinking, try to talk to them about it.
Engage people in conversations
Ask them questions and really ask yourself at the end of the day, do I really have all the facts about this situation?
If the answer is no, then don’t stress yourself out thinking that it’s worse than it is. Just that simple change in perspective can really make a huge difference.
You go from thinking everyone hates me, no one likes me, no one wants to talk to me so I don’t really know how everyone feels and the only way I’m going to find out is if I engage with them or talk to them directly.
When you start taking that type of approach, your mindset starts to shift from feeling overlooked to feeling active in your interactions with others. You no longer are sitting passively in the back.
You’re now actively forward, you’re being noticed because you’re making your voice heard, you’re learning more about how other people feel about you.
Reach out to people
I know how uncomfortable it can be to feel like you know everything that everyone else is already thinking but, it can also feel hurtful and sad and isolating and those are the kind of things you want to work away from instead of into. And another thing you can do to help you get more noticed is to ask for help.
There’s nothing wrong with turning to someone and saying “Hey, I’m struggling with this. I’m having trouble with this. Can you help me in some way?”.
By just talking about and sharing what you’re going through, it makes it easier for you to stand tall right then and there. You don’t have to retreat to the background or hide what’s going on and that ends up making you feel less noticed.
You can be forward, you can be honest, you can be comfortable with who you are. And maybe that’s at the root of it all. Maybe you tend to feel overlooked and like people don’t notice you don’t really feel comfortable with who you are.
Well, I want you to know right here and right now, you’re special just the way you are. You carry that unique gift inside of you that no one else has. So, share it with the world. Let it be known. Bring what you have to the table and make yourself stand out.