To begin with, the first thing you need to do is to stop pointing out the negatives in you. A lot of people fail to love themselves or practice self-love because they feel they aren’t “good enough”. The thought of not being good enough to be loved leads to various insecurities that ultimately lead you to lose your self-confidence.
When you know who you are, you know what you need to do instead of looking for permission from others to do what you already know you ought to do. It allows you to bypass tons of frustration caused by putting time into the wrong things.
Yes, life is supposed to be full of trial and error, but this lets you find the best areas for you to experiment in the first place.
Once you know yourself, you will become more confident, you will understand your purpose, and you will begin making a bigger impact on the world and you will start to love yourself
How to actually love yourself?
You must have the lightning to thunder. You must have the competence to roar like a lion. No matter what gender do you hold, no matter what shape you are off, no matter what, just the fundamentals, the most salient point is how you love yourself.
The world has gone too far. Far away from people, far away from feelings, far away from themselves. It is not important to love everyone or everyone or someone consisting all. But what matters is how you take care of yourself. I am going to share 13 Proven Strategies that will help you love yourself.
Now here are some ways you can love yourself.
In today’s world, where you talk of people not getting time to talk to you, do you once look towards the factor that how much time are you giving to yourself? We cannot arrange a time. The biggest and the deepest root cause of loneliness, hatred towards one’s own self and not accepting what actually we are.
We need to spend some out there. We need to talk to our bodies and soul. It may take time to get deep. But being friends with oneself and loving oneself is the greatest of all love stories.
Isn’t that cute? Right?
So, face yourself, confront your weaknesses, because you are stronger than them.
2. Know Hobbies
Ever been in a relationship. Of course. right? you would have always been noticing and identity your partner’s hobbies, likes, dislikes, comforts, and whatnot. But what about your relationship with your body. Is it bad? Ok if it is your need to fix it out make your body happy. Make it feel better. Make it feel comfortable and free and awesome. Just as you expect from your relationship partners to make you feel Good, Comfortable, Beautiful, Spacious.
Treat your body well, your emotions, and your feelings well. You admire your mind. You praise your mistakes. You will feel that love and affection and comfort and support back by your body to you. Shame is the word to use when you don’t love yourself the way you are.
3. Perfection is within
People feel disrespectful, Embarrassed, Inferior, Thrown, and IMPERFECT. There is no such word as existence until and unless you let it knock your doors of heart and let it come in and make you feel worse and worse. One day you would not find yourself the quest and won’t be able to get out of that swamp of inferiority and complex of never getting raised or higher than that bad mental state of being the worst.
There may be days when you would feel hard to get up. There may be days when you would not be with good hair and a good dress and energetic voice to talk. But it doesn’t matter at all to be perfect all time rather anytime because we can’t be all good all the time. We can’t be perfect. We need not always walk like a gentleman Love triangle though. Funny!! Never mind. I bet this will be the most sustainable and the best relation triangle ever
So, how can you know who you are and what you ought to do in life? Here are the six steps you need to take in order to know your true self and how you can love yourself again.
4. Be quiet
You cannot and will not be able to know yourself until you take the time to be still. Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But it isn’t until you get alone, evaluate yourself, and are completely truthful with yourself that you will actually be able to see every facet of your life—the good and the bad. Be quiet and discover your true self.
“Observing yourself is the necessary starting point for any real change.” —Chalmers Brothers
5. Realize who you truly are, not who you want to be.
I know you already have a set idea of who you desperately want to be, but it might not be who you were designed to be; this is why knowing who you really are is so important. When you know who you are, you will finally see where you and your specific gifts fit into the bigger picture.
And although, there are many points along your journey to help you discover yourself, the best way to begin is to take a personality test and the StrengthsFinder test. (If it’s been five or more years since you’ve completed either of these, take them again.) No, these self-evaluations aren’t perfect, but they do pinpoint your top areas of strengths, so you can focus on the change you were meant to bring into the world.
6. Find what you are good at (and not good at).
This might be the most difficult step in the process of finding who you are, but it’s a necessary one. Sure, it takes trial and error to find what you’re good at, and no, I don’t want you to give up before you’ve had more than enough attempts, but knowing when to quit is a gift that everyone needs to learn.
Quit when you’ve put in ample time and your efforts aren’t giving back in return. What is ample time? Only you can decide that. But when you quit correctly, it isn’t giving up, it’s making room for something better. When your actions do nothing but drain you—rather than produce more passion and increase your drive to do more—that’s a good sign it is time to focus elsewhere. Your strengths will show you who you are.
7. Find what you are passionate about.
Following a passion of any kind is a good thing, and you need to pay attention when it comes because it indicates an area of life that you need to pay more attention to. If we’re talking about following your passion in work, it’s a good thing. And if we’re talking about having more passion for life, it’s a good thing. Focus more on passion; understand yourself in better ways, and you’ll make a bigger impact. Passion produces effort and continuous effort produces results.
8. Ask for feedback.
If you don’t know yourself, hearing what others have to say about you is a helpful practice. Ask them two simple questions: “What strengths do you think I need to develop further?” and “What weaknesses do you think I need to work on?” Of course, their opinion isn’t going to be perfect, but their feedback will probably indicate a few areas you should at least take a second look at. This step is especially important for those who are stuck in finding themselves. Sometimes those closest to us can see something we might not be able to see in ourselves.
9. Assess your relationships.
A large aspect of knowing yourself can be found in your relationships. When you realize you’ll never truly know anyone else until you discover yourself, the importance of knowing yourself becomes even more apparent. This truth especially rings true for business leaders, because if you don’t know the people on your team, then you will be lost as a leader. But this rule also applies to any relationship in your life. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you—the real you.
10. Stay away from arguments, complaining, and criticism.
Participating in these things puts your energy in a low vibration, farther away from love. Thoughts, that are of low vibration, including hatred, anger, jealousy, and the like, block away from the natural flow of positive energies in you. Speak of compliments and praise, and let go of any hurtful comments that block away from the flow of love from within.
11. Give yourself the license to progress at your own pace.
Practice loving yourself unconditionally, regardless if good things happen or not so good things occur. Be patient and compassionate about yourself, and stay in love with who you are at whatever stage in life you are in, by giving yourself the leeway to explore and grow at your own perfect timing.
12. Make it a habit to smile often.
This includes every little thing that is going well in your day. Keep your focus on what is working and what you feel good about. Acknowledge and appreciate the blessings, no matter how big or small, including the sun, coming up today or the bed you slept on comfortably last night, up to the helpful people you meet and interact with.
Last but not least,
13. Do not ever worry about people or what they have to say
This is the key to loving yourself, we usually try to become what people want us to be, rather than trying to be ourselves. We end up taking everyone’s comments way too seriously and start wondering if we are good enough to present ourselves to the world. Always remember, love that is directed towards oneself is definitely the greatest love there is.