How to have a healthy relationship. Let’s talk about “HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP”.
I will talk about relationships in general: with your spouse, with your children, with your parents, with your friends, with your neighbors, with your co-workers, with people, who are important for you.
I will share with you 7 tips about healthy relationships in your life.
Put your guard down and let another person enter your personal space. Physical contact like touch, hugs, and kisses. On average, every person needs 7 hugs per day.
How many hugs do you get? How many hugs do you give? So physical context is very important for a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.
Open communication is the key to healthy relationship
Share your thoughts, share your ideas, don’t be afraid to express yourself, share your concerns, ask your questions.
Stop using general questions
Be more personal, try to avoid questions with “yes/no” answers or with the short answers.
For example, instead of asking, “how are you doing” and ask, “what did you do today?” Because when you ask a person, “how are you doing” and the person can say, “Fine”. How was your day? “Fine”.
So in this way, you cannot create communication. So use questions that will require a full answer.
You can say, What’s new in your life? How was your trip? Instead of are you hungry? You can say, What do you prefer for dinner tonight?
So create questions where people can actually tell you a story, share something about their lives.
Listen and ask questions
Practice listening. A lot of time we don’t actually listen to our opponent.
When a person is talking, we’re thinking about our staff, our problems, our lives. So we don’t really involve in other person’s life and that’s why we have a lot of miscommunication, so lots of conflicts.
The simple thing is just listening. When the person is talking, dedicate one to maybe three minutes of your life to listen to what the person is telling you.
Basically what I-statement means is when you are saying, I feel angry, I feel sad, instead of saying, “You made me feel bad, It’s your fault.”
So I-statement is when you’re talking about your own feelings, not blaming another person.
Being grateful it’s extremely important. Try to say, “Thank you” to other person and be a little bit more specific.
You can say thank you for spending five minutes for making something for me or thank you for making tea for me. I really appreciate you helping me.
And even if it’s something small, you can still say thank you. So tell the person how much you value, respect and appreciate him or her in your life. Be grateful.
Do not underestimate the person
Be Supportive. We all need a person who is going to tell us, “I love you. You’re great. I trust you. You have amazing qualities, I believe in you. You can do. Go ahead.”
So if your friend, for example, is looking for a new job and maybe he or she is afraid or feel nervous about the interview, you can say something like, “Of course you’re going to be a great candidate for this job!
You have amazing qualities. You’re an amazing person, Go for it!”
So we need someone who is going to support us and believed in us. So do not underestimate the person, opposite
and be supportive!
See the best quality, the best in your friends and your relatives, in your loved ones and your children.