Alright, let’s be completely honest here: Getting dumped hurts. No matter how hard you try to sugar coat it is plainly one of the most excruciatingly painful things that a man will go through, ever. No one wants to go through the pain of a breakup, right?
But you know what makes breaking up worse?
When it comes right out of the blue. One day you’re loving life and in a “perfect” relationship and the next day she’s packing her things and taking that sweet face out the front door. Make no mistake. This will mess you up like anything. It’s no laughing matter! Here’s what you need to realize, though. Splitting up with your girlfriend doesn’t
just happen.
There are always warning signs. It’s like a dam breaking. The entire process starts out with one tiny little crack. Over time this crack grows bigger and bigger until you hit the point of no return. And once that happens the whole thing collapses all at once.
You have no idea she’s unhappy until the day you get dumped. So, here’s what I’m trying to say here. Invisible cracks spread across your relationship and you can’t see them until it’s too late. To avoid a breakup, you’ll need to “see” those cracks as they start to form.
Here’s the point I was trying to make: Most breakups follow a definite pattern. And with what you’re about to learn in this article, you can identify this pattern, and save the relationship before you get dumped. You see before the breakup happens your relationship will go through four different stages.
Here are 4 signs that your partner is thinking to break up with you.
Breakup Stage #1 – The “Cool Off”
Remember when you first started dating and couldn’t get enough of each other? The feeling between the two of you was white-hot and electric. You engaged in copious amounts of PDA (or “Public Display of Affection” if you’re not familiar with the term). Sadly, that’s a thing of the past. Now, you’re like a boring middle-aged couple that’s been married for 20 years.
So, to know if you’re at Breakup Stage #1, ask yourself this question: Has she stopped being physical with you?
Breakup Stage #2 – Cracks Start Appearing
You used to be like two peas in a pod… but not anymore. Now it seems like she’s impossible to get along with. You bicker over stupid, trivial things. Plus there’s a permanent underlying current of tension. That’s not all. She’s rude and seems to have lost all respect for you as a man. No matter what you do, she won’t play ball. And you can feel an almost unbearable strain starting to grow in your relationship.
Are you at Breakup Stage #2? Well, ask yourself this – Have you stopped getting along with her?
Breakup Stage #3 – Cracks Start Spreading
Now comes the point where she no longer wants to spend time with you. Previously, the two of you were inseparable. You were joined at the hip and spent every moment together. But now days go by without you seeing her. And all of a sudden she’s making excuses not to hang out or spend time together. And any time you text or call she’s with somebody else and will “see you tomorrow.” So, ask yourself this: Has she stopped spending time with you?
If she has, then you’re at Breakup Stage #3.
Breakup Stage #4 – The Dam Bursts
At this point, you’ve stopped being physical with her. There’s an unbearable level of friction between the two of you Plus you barely see her anymore. And on top of all this, it doesn’t seem as if she cares or wants to do anything about it. It’s almost as if you’ve broken up it’s just not official yet. (In fact, you pretty much have.). You’re like a guy waiting for the day. The day she calls you up and says, “We need to talk.” This is the moment just before the dam breaks. This is the danger point where you can go forward or fall apart.
Now listen up because this is really important. Even if you’re at Breakup Stage #4, it’s not too late.
You CAN go back to the way things were before.
But how do you do this?
The thing you need to realize is that time is of the essence in this type of situation. Your relationship is on life support and needs drastic and immediate attention. The truth is that you’ve messed up, and you need something drastic that works.
